Saturday, July 23, 2016

Applying for a Session with Me: Do's and Don'ts.

Ever since I started taking professional sessions, I have had several people apply for session time, but only a few have been accepted. Why? I will go over some of the things that cause me to turn away potential clients, and things that will cause me to accept you.

DO's & DON'Ts

1. Take the time to fill out the session inquiry in full. Think about why you want to session with ME, and describe what you envision happening with me, in a session. I am interested in what you want to explore, because I know what I like and I want to know if your interest aligns with my interest and expertise. I am a professional, and that means I take pride in my art, I take pride in my sessions and in order to make this work for both of us, we need to communicate on some level. If you are contacting me as a submissive, do not forget that I require respect from all of the clients and submissives I play with and will not hesitate to deny your request if I feel I am in any way being disrespected.

2. Tribute appropriately and have references ready upon request. I prefer working with subs who have a good reference from another ProDomme, that is easy to reach via text or phone, email is acceptable as well but not preferred. If you are new and do not have a reference, you may be required to give a larger portion of tribute to the deposit. An accepted session request requires a portion of the total tribute, as deposit, to hold session time and date, and it is clearly noted on the website and application. If you aren't willing to leave a deposit, I will not work with you and it is non-negotiable.

3.  I am very good at reading people, but often times people try not to be read. If I feel at all unclear of your intentions, I will require more information until I feel good about moving forward. If you are not willing to comply by completing simple tasks, such as filling out minor paper work and or liability forms, then I will not work with you, period. Most subs love it when a Domme wants to know specifics about them and their fetishes and/or submissive desires, so when you are resistant to my show of interest, it is questionable.

4. I am interested in submissives, masochists, fetishists, and those interested in TPE or Total Power Exchange. If you don't know what you align as, or if you are inexperienced, that is okay, but you need to remember that this is not just an act for me, this is who I am. Therefore I will only spend my time with those who I feel have gone above and beyond what is necessary to get my attention and show their truest desire to serve me. Decide if it is appropriate to read up on different BDSM roles/expressions, so you can gain clarity on what you are interested in.

5. Address me appropriately! Madam, Miss, Ma'am, Goddess, Domina, Mistress are all acceptable titles for addressing me with respect. Do not write me sloppy emails, or I will not read them. Take some responsibility for what you are putting in front of me as a representation of yourself. I love great grammar! I know not everyone has excellent grammar, but at least try!

6. Do not ask me to tell you more about myself, UNLESS you have already read everything you can about me from all of my various online profiles, PLEASE. I will most likely repeat some of the various things I have written previously, as they all tend to sum me up pretty well.

7. Do NOT send me dick pics or other unnecessarily explicit and unsolicited materials, as I will not accept them and you will be immediately rejected.

Hopefully this will be a helpful guideline for those of you who are wanting to book a professional session, but are unaware of the etiquette or appropriate way to go about speaking to a Professional Domme. Please feel free to ask any questions in the comment, if you have a specific question that I did not address.